So, I had a breakup recently, not gonna lie, it’s been tough. I started to wonder, how do guys generally feel after a breakup? I did some digging and decided to share my journey and what I found. It’s been a rollercoaster, to say the least.
First thing I did was try to distract myself. You know, diving headfirst into work, hitting the gym more often, and even picking up a new hobby. I started learning to play the guitar. It wasn’t easy, my fingers hurt, and the chords sounded awful at first, but it was something to keep my mind occupied. I spent hours practicing, trying to get the hang of it. It was frustrating but also kind of therapeutic.
- Worked extra hours
- Increased gym sessions
- Started learning guitar
Then came a weird phase. I called it my “freedom high.” Suddenly, I felt like I could do anything. No responsibilities, no compromises. I went out with friends almost every night, stayed up late playing video games, and even planned a spontaneous weekend trip. It felt great initially. I was living it up, enjoying my newfound freedom. I even reconnected with some old friends I hadn’t seen in years. We had a blast, reminiscing about old times and making new memories.
But then, like clockwork, the loneliness crept in. Nights were the worst. I found myself scrolling through old photos, reading old messages, you know, the classic social media creeping. It was like a bad habit I couldn’t break. I knew it wasn’t healthy, but I couldn’t help myself. I would spend hours looking at her profile, wondering what she was up to, who she was with. It was a vicious cycle of pain and nostalgia.
- Spent hours on social media
- Looked at old photos and messages
- Felt a mix of sadness and regret
After a while, I realized I needed to deal with my feelings head-on. It was like hitting a wall. I couldn’t keep running away from the pain. So, I started to let myself feel all the emotions I had been suppressing. It was messy. Some days I felt angry, other days I was just incredibly sad. I even found myself crying out of nowhere a few times. It was tough, but it felt necessary. Like I was finally processing everything that had happened.
The Hibernation
And then, I just wanted to be alone. I entered what I call my hibernation mode. I stopped going out as much, spent more time at home, just reflecting and trying to make sense of everything. I watched a lot of movies, read some books, and just gave myself the time and space I needed to heal. I started journaling, writing down my thoughts and feelings. It helped me understand myself better and see things more clearly.
It’s been a journey, to say the least. I’m still figuring things out, but I’ve learned a lot about myself and how I handle emotional pain. It’s not easy, but it’s a process, and I’m taking it one day at a time. I realized that it’s okay to feel a whole range of emotions after a breakup. It’s part of being human. And most importantly, I learned that it’s okay to take your time to heal. There’s no rush, and everyone’s journey is different. This breakup taught me a lot about resilience and the importance of self-care. It’s been tough, but I’m slowly finding my way back to myself.
