Okay, here’s my story about that whole “does oral count as losing your virginity” thing.
So, a while back, me and my girlfriend, we were getting pretty hot and heavy. Things were moving fast, and we ended up doing the whole oral thing. It was, uh, pretty intense. Afterwards, we were both lying there, kind of catching our breath, and I just blurted out, “Wait, did that count?”
She looked at me, all surprised, and was like, “Count as what?” And I’m like, “You know, as losing it.” We both started laughing because, honestly, it felt a little silly to even ask. But I was genuinely curious.
We started talking about it, and it got me thinking. What does it really mean to “lose your virginity”? Is it just about the first time you have traditional, penis-in-vagina sex? Or is it more about the first time you have a really intimate, sexual experience with someone?
My Deep Dive into the Question
I did what any curious person would do – I hit up the internet. I was browsing through different sites, trying to find some answers. Saw a poll on Seventeen, and it looked like most people were saying it doesn’t count.
- I mean, some people consider it as losing it.
- Some people don’t.
- Everyone defines it differently.
But then I started reading more personal stories, and it got me thinking about all the different ways people experience intimacy. There’s way more than just P-in-V sex, right? I found these articles talking about how sex can include oral stuff, anal stuff, even just using your fingers. And it made sense.
So, I started to realize that maybe “virginity” isn’t so black and white. Maybe it’s not about checking off some specific act, but more about the emotional and physical connection you have with someone.
After all that searching and thinking, I talked to my girlfriend again. We had a really good conversation about it. We realized that what matters most is how we feel about each other and the experiences we share. We were close, we connected, and we felt really good. In the end, that’s all that mattered.
So, did it count? In my book, maybe not in the traditional sense. But did it feel like a big, important step in our relationship? Absolutely. I learned a lot about intimacy and connection, and it made me realize how personal and different these things are for everyone.
