Okay, so I’ve been thinking about this whole “virginity” thing a lot lately, especially after last weekend. I’m gonna tell you what happened, and maybe it’ll help someone else figure things out, too. You see, I always thought that losing your virginity meant, like, you know, “doing it” – penis goes in vagina, that’s it. But then there’s this other stuff, like oral sex, and I was never sure where that fit in.
So, last Saturday, I was hanging out with my boyfriend, things got heated, and we ended up giving each other oral. It was…intense. We both enjoyed it a lot, and it felt pretty damn significant. Afterward, I started wondering, “Wait, did that count? Was that, like, losing my virginity?” It felt big enough to count, you know? But I wasn’t sure.
The Experiment: Deep Dive into Details
I started digging around to figure this out. I read a bunch of articles and forum posts, and it was all really confusing. Some people were saying, “No way, oral doesn’t count!” Others were like, “Well, maybe it’s up to you to decide.” And then there were all these warnings about STIs, which, yeah, good to know, but not really what I was asking.
- First Attempt: Started with a basic search. Found a lot of stuff saying vaginal intercourse is the only thing that counts as losing your virginity.
- Second Attempt: Looked at forums and discussions. Saw lots of different opinions, some saying oral sex could be considered a loss of virginity if it feels like that to the person.
- Third Attempt: Realized there’s a health aspect. Oral sex can transmit STIs, just like any other sexual act. This was a bit off-topic but still important.
- Continued Research: Kept looking for more personal stories, and realized a lot of people were just as confused as I was.
After all that, I talked to my boyfriend about it. We had a really good conversation. He said he didn’t think it was about checking some box; it was about how we felt. And honestly, that made a lot of sense to me. We decided that for us, it felt like a big step, something special. So, in our minds, maybe that was kind of like losing a part of our virginity, even if it wasn’t the “traditional” way. It feels different now, more intimate, like we shared something really important. In the end, it is really up to us to decide, nobody else.
