Okay, let’s talk about this topic. You know, I’ve been writing about sex for like, thirty years, so I’ve seen a lot. I remember chatting with a bunch of girls, 26 to be exact, about their first time. It was eye-opening, hearing how they felt, how they knew they were ready, the whole deal.
I’ve also listened to some amazing podcasts, it’s crazy what you can learn just by listening. Folks talking honestly about sex, sharing their experiences, and busting those myths we all hear about. One time, I was invited to this private party, it was wild. People were open about their desires, their fantasies, it was like stepping into another world.
The first time, it can be anything from a simple make-out to a full-blown one-night stand. But you know what I realized? Women often feel like they can’t talk about this stuff, like it’s taboo or something. But why? Sexuality is a part of who we are, and it can be a lonely road if you’re navigating it alone.
- I had a deep conversation with this intimacy coach, Leah Carey, she’s got this podcast where she just gets into it with women about their sex lives.
- And then there was this chat with 13 college girls about their “number” and their sexual history. It was intense. Some felt like they had too many partners, some didn’t care, it was a whole spectrum.
I even talked to survivors of abuse, and these amazing women who are all about body positivity and sex positivity. They all said the same thing: talking about sex is crucial.
I organized a small get-together, got some wine, some snacks, and just let the conversation flow. We laughed, we cried, we shared stories that would probably make some people blush. But it was real, it was honest, and it was exactly what we all needed.
I started documenting every time I heard people talk about it, jotting down notes, and recording conversations. I wanted to capture the rawness, the vulnerability, the truth about what girls really want when it comes to sex. I wrote down every detail of these meetings. How we set them up, what we talked about, the emotions in the room, everything.
The Result
After all these experiences, I realized that it’s not just about the physical act. It’s about connection, about feeling safe, about being able to express yourself without judgment. It’s about so much more than just the mechanics of it all. And that’s what I try to share in my writing, in my talks, in everything I do.
