Okay, so, let’s talk about this whole “signs a guy is leading you on” thing. I’ve been through it, and let me tell you, it’s a rollercoaster.
It all started with this guy, let’s call him “Alex”. We met through friends, hit it off, and started texting a lot. I mean, we were chatting every day, all day. He was funny, charming, and seemed genuinely interested in me. We went on a few dates, and things were going great. Or so I thought.
Then, things started to get weird. He’d make plans with me but then cancel last minute. His texts became less frequent, and when he did reply, it was always short and kinda vague. I was confused and, honestly, a bit hurt. I started to wonder, was I imagining things? Was he just not that into me anymore?
So, I did what any rational person would do – I went down the internet rabbit hole. I started searching for answers, reading articles, and watching videos about dating and relationships. That’s when I stumbled upon this concept of “being led on”. It’s basically when someone gives you just enough attention to keep you interested but isn’t actually serious about pursuing a real relationship.
I started seeing all these signs in Alex’s behavior that I had either ignored or made excuses for. Here are some of the things I noticed, and looking back, they were major red flags:
Inconsistent Communication
- He only texted when it was convenient for him. I was always initiating conversations, and he’d take hours, sometimes even days, to respond. Then he sends me some “Hey, what’s up?” text and I reply immediately.
Flaky Behavior
- He kept canceling plans. He’d say he was busy with work or had other commitments, but it happened way too often to be a coincidence.
Breadcrumbing
- He’d give me just enough attention to keep me hooked. He’d send a flirty text out of the blue or like all my social media posts, but then he’d disappear again.
Avoiding the “Relationship Talk”
- He never wanted to talk about where things were going. Whenever I tried to bring it up, he’d change the subject or give some non-committal answer.
Realizing all this was a tough pill to swallow. It was like a punch to the gut. But it was also a wake-up call. I realized I deserved someone who was genuinely interested in me, not someone who was just playing games.
So, I decided to cut my losses. I stopped initiating conversations and started focusing on myself. It wasn’t easy, but it was the best decision I could have made. It’s better to be alone than to be with someone who makes you feel like crap, right?
It took some time to get over it, but I learned a valuable lesson from that whole experience. Now, I’m way more aware of the signs, and I’m not afraid to walk away if I feel like I’m being led on. Trust me, your time and energy are too precious to waste on someone who isn’t serious about you.
