Okay, so, you wanna know about the time my husband went down on me? Let me tell you, it was a journey, to say the least. It all started with a simple conversation. We’ve been together for a while, and things in the bedroom were getting, well, a bit routine. I love my husband, but our sex life needed a little spark.
I remember feeling a bit nervous bringing it up. I mean, it’s not the easiest topic to discuss, right? But I knew communication was key. So, one evening, after dinner, I just blurted it out. I told him I wanted him to go down on me more often. He seemed a little taken aback, maybe even a bit uncomfortable. But he listened, which was a good start.
Turns out, he had some hesitations. He wasn’t sure he was doing it right, and he didn’t want to make me feel uncomfortable. We talked it through, and I assured him that I would guide him. I even suggested he read “She Comes First,” just to get some pointers. I made it clear that I wanted him to enjoy it too, not just see it as a chore. We agreed to take it slow and just see where it goes.
The first few times were a bit awkward, I won’t lie. But we kept talking, kept experimenting. I made sure the environment was relaxing. I remember dimming the lights, putting on some soft music, and even using some lavender oil to set the mood. I also showed him how to start with some deep breathing to relax. It was about making us both feel comfortable and connected.
Slowly but surely, he started to get the hang of it. He learned what I liked and what I didn’t. And you know what? It made a huge difference. It wasn’t just about the physical act; it was about the intimacy, the connection. It felt like we were exploring a whole new side of our relationship.
There were still times when he seemed a bit hesitant, maybe some old baggage or just a bad day. But we would always talk it through. I realized that it wasn’t always about me; sometimes, he had his own stuff going on. And that’s okay. We’re partners, and we’re in this together.
- Started with an open conversation about what I wanted.
- Discovered he had hesitations and concerns about doing it right.
- Suggested he read “She Comes First” for some guidance.
- Created a relaxing environment with dim lights, music, and essential oils.
- Guided him through deep breathing to help him relax.
- Explored different techniques and communicated our preferences.
- Realized it’s about intimacy and connection, not just the physical act.
- Acknowledged that sometimes it’s not about me; he might have his own issues.
- Reinforced that we are partners and will work through things together.
Now, things are much better. It’s not perfect, but we’re way past those initial awkward moments. We’ve both learned a lot about each other and ourselves. And it all started with that one conversation. So, if you’re thinking about it, just talk to your partner. It might be the best thing you ever do for your relationship.
