Well, let me tell ya somethin’ about this “no expectations” thing. Folks these days, they use all sorts of fancy words, but it ain’t so complicated.
What’s it mean, this “no expectations”? It just means you ain’t waitin’ for nothin’ special to happen. Like, if you plant a seed, you kinda expect a flower, right? Well, with “no expectations,” you just plant the seed and whatever happens, happens. If a flower pops up, great! If a weed shows up, well, that’s just how it is.
- Don’t expect no prince charming.
- Don’t expect no big fancy house.
- Don’t expect nothin’, and you won’t be disappointed.
See, when a fella says he’s got “no expectations” in a relationship, he’s sayin’ he ain’t promisin’ you the moon and the stars. He ain’t sayin’ he’ll buy you a big diamond ring or take you to fancy restaurants every night. He’s just sayin’ he’ll be there, and that’s it. No fancy promises, no big plans, just takin’ it as it comes.
Now, some folks might say that’s a bad thing, like he don’t care. But maybe it ain’t. Maybe it’s just bein’ honest. Maybe he’s been hurt before, had all sorts of expectations that got smashed to smithereens, and now he’s just tryin’ to keep things simple. He’s tryin’ to protect his heart, you know? Ain’t nothin’ wrong with that.
But what about them relationships, huh? You gotta have some expectations, don’t ya? Like, you expect your man to be kind, to treat you right, to not go runnin’ off with the neighbor lady. That ain’t too much to ask, is it?
Well, yeah, you do. But maybe “no expectations” ain’t about them big things. Maybe it’s about the little things. Like, don’t expect him to always remember to take out the trash. Don’t expect him to always know what you’re thinkin’. Don’t expect him to be perfect, ’cause nobody’s perfect, not even you and me.
This “no expectations” thing, it’s about takin’ responsibility for your own happiness. Don’t go blamin’ him if you ain’t happy. You gotta figure out what makes you happy and go after it yourself. If he comes along for the ride, great. If he don’t, well, that’s his loss, ain’t it?
Like them sales folks tryin’ to make their quota, they can’t expect to hit big numbers every month if they don’t put in the work themselves. It’s the same in love. You put in the effort, and yeah you can have a hopeful heart, but don’t stake your whole life on it panning out just how you imagine in your head.
And trust, well, that’s a whole ‘nother story. You can build trust even without expectations. You gotta be consistent, show up when you say you will, and be honest with each other. That’s how you build trust. It ain’t about makin’ big promises; it’s about bein’ reliable, bein’ there, day in and day out.
Now, some folks say you can love someone without expectin’ nothin’ back. They call it that “unconditional love.” Sounds nice, don’t it? Like them saints in the Bible, lovin’ everybody, no matter what. But I tell ya, it ain’t easy. We’re human, we got needs, we want to be loved back. It’s natural.
But maybe this “no expectations” love is just about givin’ freely without keepin’ score. You love ’em ’cause you love ’em, not ’cause you expect them to love you back the same way. You do good things for them ‘cause you want to, not ‘cause you’re expectin’ somethin’ in return. It’s like waterin’ a plant because you like to see it grow, not because it needs to give you a rose.
Expectations can make you feel like you got a hold on things, like you control how the other person is supposed to be. But honey, you can’t control nobody but yourself. And when things don’t go your way, you get all mad and disappointed. You start fightin’, misunderstandin’ each other, and then, poof, the whole thing falls apart. It’s like trying to hold water in your hand – the tighter you squeeze, the faster it slips through your fingers.
So, maybe this “no expectations” thing is about lettin’ go. Lettin’ go of control, lettin’ go of your ideas of how things should be, and just lettin’ things happen. It’s about bein’ open to whatever comes your way, good or bad. It’s about being free. If you find a connection, great. If you don’t, well, there are other seeds to plant and maybe they’ll grow. You just keep on livin’, keep on lovin’, and don’t expect too much, and maybe, just maybe, you’ll find a little bit of happiness along the way. It ain’t a guarantee, mind you, but nothin’ in life is, is it?
